|Does this dude look emotionally intelligent to you?|
It’s been a rainy day filled with work. I got up at 6:30 while it was still dark, climbed the spiral staircase to the attic and exercised for 30 minutes. Then I showered, got dressed, had breakfast and continued to translate lawsuit exhibits into English. I got a little ahead and decided to enter the confessional – the blog.
Has blogging become a cult religion?
I initially began this entry by writing “I’ve always been fascinated by emotional intelligence.” But what I really wanted to say was that I’ve always been amazed by people’s lack of emotional intelligence, including my own!
It doesn’t take long to find a brief definition of emotional intelligence on the Internet. This one looks fairly acceptable to me:
1. Self-awareness – the ability to read one's emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide decisions.
2. Self-management – involves controlling one's emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances.
3. Social awareness – the ability to sense, understand, and react to others' emotions while comprehending social networks.
4. Relationship management – the ability to inspire, influence, and develop others while managing conflict.
Whew! That’s a tall order.
I’m more comfortable with the first two: Self awareness and Self-management.
I definitively need to work on Social awareness and Relationship management.
And I have a gut feeling that I had a propensity for attracting friends and women (relatively speaking) because, in fact, I was reasonably self-aware and self-managed.
So what’s the point to all this egocentric blabbering? Well, it takes us back to the “Zen to Zero” odyssey. Being Zen is being emotionally intelligent…or perhaps “balanced” is the more appropriate adjective.
Remember, I’m still in the confession stage.
Darkness is falling as I write and Ana should be arriving home from school soon.